Scared of Lonely?

Many of us jump from one relationship to the next. Is it because we are anxious for a new thrill? Or is it because we enjoy the company we receive from the opposite sex? Most times it's because we're scared of being lonely. Beyonce so aptly described the feeling most of us experience when we realise that we have been put back into the "singles" file. She says:

"I'm scared of lonely
And I'm scared of being the only shadow I see along a wall
And I'm scared of the only heart beat I hear beating is my own
And I'm scared of being alone, I can't seem to breathe
When I am lost in this dream, I need you to hold me
I'm scared of lonely, I'm scared of lonely".

Do we agree with Beyonce in this regard? Is this the feeling some of us are faced with? Is this the feeling that propells us to find a new relationship as quickly as possible? For some people maybe! However, we should not look at our "relationship lull" as a terrible thing. Instead we should look at it as a time to regroup. A time when we can find ourselves and discover what more we are looking for.

Instead of this mindset, there are some individuals desperate not to have just their shadow being the only one on the wall, they go out and cast lots. They wait with baited breath as the gods through the dice, eager to see which lucky young lady or young man will become their new preoccupation! Some blame it on Cupid when the relationship doesn't work out! Why don't we stop that fable and just be truthful! Our relationships most times don't work out because we are too anxious for them to begin in the first place.

Whatever happened to starting slow, taking the time to know him or her? We need to draw on the pearls of wisdom sung by Percy Sledge. He said:

"Take time to know her. It's not an overnight thing.
Take time to know her, please don't rush into this thing!"

He went on to say that:

"well she was bad i didn't know it.
Her pretty little smile never did show it......"

This brings me to a next point. How foolish we mortals be! We allow a winning smile, a sexy six pack body, a "coco cola bottle shape young lady" to win us over without first establishing the fundamentals. These things are but for a time and when they fade what is left? Nothing is left because the relationship wasn't built on good principles!

I'm no expert! As a matter of fact I'm single right now. Broke up with my boyfriend of two years and I'm the happiest I've ever been! Some people may say it's a front, but it's not! Singleness is a gift not a curse! If you cannot learn to enjoy your singleness, how will you be able to last a relationship?

Unlike Beyonce, I'm not in a fight, i don't need to be patient, i certainly don't need comfort late at night and i can find my way without anybody leading me home! For those single people out there, don't be blue! Don't be scared of being lonely! God is crafting your perfect someone, the oh so famous Mr. or Mrs. Right and when the time comes he'll have you know him or her!

So why should you be scared of being lonely? Loneliness is as fleeting as time!